Nancy carefully spelled out the man’s name, Paul Richard Doe, on some important papers she drew up for a couple. She then abbreviated the wife’s middle name to it’s initial, Terry A. Doe. The wife was upset and asked that her name be corrected. Nancy didn’t understand why it was a big deal, but made the requested change.
Nancy didn’t stop to think that Terry often uses both her names, Terry Ann, and Paul never does. If she was going to abbreviate one it would have been safer to abbreviate Paul’s.
People’s names are important to them. It is part of their identity. They write their name to signify they take ownership of something, and they answer to it. Names often have a family or other meaning.
It is wise to pay attention to people’s names and use them correctly. Ask them what name they prefer if there is a nickname or question. Make sure the name is spelled and pronounced correctly. Use the name when you are talking to the person. Treat people with equal respect. It is a way to show respect and indicate that you see the person.