It seems consideration, thoughtfulness, is another victim of our fast-paced lives. You see the lack of it everywhere.
At the store or on the road, people cut lines and push others out of their way. They let doors slam in the face of the next person coming through. Drivers exit the highway from the far left lane. People hide behind the anonymity of the situation.
At the gym, people come in and head to “their” locker, climbing over or pushing aside anyone who happens to block their passage. Some hog machines, glare at anyone on a machine they want and otherwise make it uncomfortable for other members. Most are nice about it, but we all know who to try to avoid. (The gym is an interesting place to people watch.)
Why Do We Ignore Others?
There are, as always, differing reasons people fail to pay attention to the effect they have on those around them. As mentioned above, our fast-paced world causes us to always think about what we have to do now, and next. We don’t take time to breathe, enjoy the moment and think about the people around us. Another big reason is that several reports (see sample) indicate more people show more narcissistic traits than in the past. They are concerned with themselves, not others. Perhaps some simply weren’t taught to share. There are certainly other reasons people don’t show more consideration.
Failure to Show Consideration Has a Cost
When people fail to show consideration for others, it affects their relationships. People find it more difficult to trust the person, might exclude them and warn others to be careful around them. In short, it reflects badly on them. People may find it difficult to maintain meaningful relationships with them. As relationships strain, isolation becomes increasingly possible.
An inability to get along with others can also affect work. Offices look for people who can work together, limiting conflict and other problems. Failure to work well with others has the potential to limit careers.
Ultimately, as Dr. Phil says, you teach people how to treat you. Treating others badly leads to unkind behavior aimed at you.
Showing consideration for others makes life more pleasant. It feels good to do something nice for others, or at least treat them with respect. You need only a few seconds to think about how your actions affect those around you. Think about how you would feel if someone treated you the way you treat others. Take the time to acknowledge and appreciate others. You will likely enjoy life more.